Ooh, not a date but I actually ghosted a friend once because they kept canceling on me last minute and I was generally sick of them controlling every hang out since I always had to revolve around their schedule, and they were generally very micromanage-y. I'm definitely not proud of this story, but in hindsight that screams anxious protest

It is kind of manipulative in my opinion. It's like when people sign off their e-mail with 'Thanks in advance for your swift reply' which actually means 'hurry up in replying to this'. Either way get a new therapist maybe 😬. Yikes I didn't think of it like that. It would suck to throw away 4+ years of seeing her.

We would make plans for me to come there and stay the night, I would tell my friends I would be busy that evening and dedicate that time for him, then he would wait until the last minute to tell me he wasn’t up for it.
Practice holding a single thought. A psychologist just told me last year that the definition of motivation is the ability to keep a single thought in your head. That blew me away. So, by that definition, to keep motivated to go to these meetups, you need to hold that thought to show up to Meetups in your head.
You can’t cancel again without being a jerk. But it’s ok to be the jerk sometimes for your own sanity. First of, it’s good you see that for yourself you need some extra time. And you should, if you feel like you do, definitely take it. Second I think there is no way it’s nice to hear something is cancelled.
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A woman I met at a party a couple of weeks ago wanted to go dancing last Saturday with me and my friends. She said she was feeling too tired in the evening and wouldn’t make it. Right now, about 75% of the plans I make with new people I meet end up getting cancelled last minute, and it’s so frustrating. uVGZ. 211 291 297 255 241 457 133 396 385

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